Break-Ups & the Social Media

Whether it be irreconcilable differences or a case of bad timing, we've all faced the inevitable outcome of a relationship gone wrong...the BREAK-UP. Now with the presence of Twitter and Facebook, sometimes the rest of the world sees it coming before we do. With the quick stroke of a key, a person's relationship status can go from 'In a Relationship' to 'It's Complicated' to non-existent all before the other person even has a chance to blink. 

These social networking sites have also been known to be the cause of a relationship demise or two. It's an easy way for people to get caught up and put on blast with the ability to tag and post photos and people connecting the dots between the six degrees of separation. Oh and God forbid you don't change your status from single when you enter any type of new union!!!

But when it's over, it's over....

How much of an impact have these sites played in your most recent relationships? When you break up, in addition to status changes, do you delete exes off your page? If they have "friended" your friends is it wrong to ask your friends to de-friend them as well? And what about pix? How long before pictures with your ex come down or does it really not matter?

Where Are The Parents?

My Facebook status a few nights ago stated a simple observation: Some people should not be parents.  The following video further reinforces my belief that some people have only themselves to blame when it comes to how their kids turn out. Where are the parents of these girls? 

This saddens me and disheartens me. I debate and defend black women and our soiled reputations. I take pride in my beautiful brown skin but for a brief moment in watching this video I was ashamed. Although I know these children do not represent me or how I was raised, to the outsiders looking in, this is fuel intensifying the fire of ignorance, hatred and detrimental stereotypes. Is it any wonder that we are thought of in the way that we are by people like this woman? Can we really be mad at her or anybody else who calls us names, doubts our worth or objectifies our very being.   Who is to blame? The kids? TV? Rap songs and videos? Or do you agree that the parents are the ones who are responsible?

Vick "dogs" Oprah

(Photo: AP)

Okay maybe Vick hasn't really dogged Oprah (pun intended) by simply canceling his appearance on her show, however, the media would have you think so.   After all, who cancels on Queen O? She's one of the most influential people in the world; about 3 spots removed from God, according to some.   So why did he do it? His camp sites "personal reasons".   The question is: was his move to cancel his interview with Oprah another crappy decision for the Eagle's quarterback or was he smart to potentially spare himself from possibly being smeared, yet again, and this time by someone with even more power than the regular media, who drug him through the fire the first time? 

Late Night Contacts

If someone of the opposite sex who you are cool with is on FB late but he/she has a gf/bf, is it appropriate to hit them up to chit chat? 

Sometimes you don't know what you might be interrupting or how that person's significant other is going to take to someone texting, calling you or chatting you up at a certain hour of the night. Do you think it should make a difference?

Happy Valentine's Day

We all know that Valentine's is just another day that has become commercialized and blown up by folks that love for you to spend your money on overpriced flowers that die, candy that contributes to the obesity problem and other expensive stuff that caters primarily to the superficial.  The same with Christmas and other holidays we know that love should be spread year around, however, the reality of it is, most folks need this type of scheduled reminder to be nice, forget about being bitter, jaded, hated on, a hater, ungrateful or unromantic (cept for those who look at this as the devil's holiday for singles).

February 14th has traditionally become the holidays for the ladies and lovers but today I want to know what you ladies are doing or have done for your man?   How do you spend your V-day and show love any other time of year?

I Am Not My Hair

What is it with men and hair? Every man has his preference and every man is different but it's funny how most men are so particular about a woman's hair. "Don't like it short" "Have to be able to get the double wrap-around", "I don't like weave" etc. All things I've heard men say in reference to a woman's hair.  I think even my daddy got mad at my momma for cutting hers over 30 years ago and he probably hasn't forgiven her since.  Sad to say but I even dealt with someone who told me that he once broke up with a girl for cutting her hair because it never looked the same (red flag)...well I cut mine while I was with him...enough said.

Listen to Method Man as he states his disdain for "peasy afros":

As a fellow Facebook friend pointed out, most men feel like this but they just don't verbalize it.   Is this true!? Why are men so critical and particular about something that's dead and that's not theirs anyway? We are NOT our hair!

Culture in America - Does it even exist?

 ^{I cannot tell you how many times I've heard people say "Americans have no culture" or "Black people have no culture." I always wonder the basis of these statements. To those who have uttered or thought it, does different equal non-existent or are there valid reasons underlying this perception?  We can see what Webster says but what does culture mean to you and with which culture do you identify?  Do you agree or disagree with the statements above?}

 

¹cul·ture

noun \ˈkəl-chər\

Definition of CULTURE

1

: cultivation, tillage

2

: the act of developing the intellectual and moral faculties especially by education

3

: expert care and training culture>

4

a : enlightenment and excellence of taste acquired by intellectual and aesthetic training b : acquaintance with and taste in fine arts, humanities, and broad aspects of science as distinguished from vocational and technical skills

5

a : the integrated pattern of human knowledge, belief, and behavior that depends upon the capacity for learning and transmitting knowledge to succeeding generations b : the customary beliefs, social forms, and material traits of a racial, religious, or social group; also : the characteristic features of everyday existence (as diversions or a way of life} shared by people in a place or time culture> culture> c : the set of shared attitudes, values, goals, and practices that characterizes an institution or organization culture focused on the bottom line> d : the set of values, conventions, or social practices associated with a particular field, activity, or societal characteristic culture> culture of materialism will take time — Peggy O'Mara>