With life's many blessings and joys also come the inevitable trials and tribulations. When the sun fades, clouds gather and you're feeling like when it rains it pours, it may be almost impossible to see the silver lining. When there's no one to turn to and those you let in don't seem to understand, you may find it hard to see your own way through the dark to the light on the other side.
During those times, I feel one of the worst things someone could say to a person who is hurting is "just get over it". Telling a person such can be more grievous than whatever it is they're going through. Many people will still try to smile despite their pain and you never know what someone is truly feeling. The impact of those words can cause a descent into a place from which that person may have an ever harder time returning. Afterall, how people handle things is purely individual and on their own accord. None of us can or should tell another how to feel, when to feel and what to feel. If it is not a matter of concern to us, it doesn't mean it can't or shouldn't be a matter of concern to them. If they matter to you their feelings should not be dismissed because everything is relative.
"Getting over it", whatever "it" may be, is obviously the goal. I don't know anyone who chooses misery though I'm sure there are some who exist. The rate at which we rebound from trying times is going to differ. Getting over things quickly/easily doesn't necessarily equate strength. I believe the easier it is to get over something, the less it ever meant. Those who tell others to simply get over it may believe they're showing support, but it just seems more like heartlessness.
How do you find the light when there's no one's hand to hold? How do you heal the wounds when there's so much left to unfold? How do you ease the pain when there's still love left inside? How do you get over the hurt when you feel you're dying inside? How do you see the light?.....
