Agree or disagree: if there's no significant drama between a dude and his baby momma, he will/would always continue to sleep with her. What about for women? Does having that bond of a child make you more likely to continue to be intimate?
I was in a relationship once with a man who had children. Although I was grateful to not have to deal with any direct baby momma drama, I always felt it odd that he seemed to not want to introduce me to them. His argument was that they were like family so he didn't feel the need to until he knew for sure about us (though I'd been around everyone else in his fam). I didn't have an overwhelming desire to meet them but I felt like wouldn't these women want to know who this person is spending so much time around their child? When I finally did meet one, I thought it great that they had a working relationship for the child but I still felt in the back of my mind that there was at least a longing for more on either his part or hers. I just got that vibe. I recently was having a conversation with someone who said that a man is always going to sleep with his baby moms and as long as there's no major drama between the two. So were my sneaking suspicions correct? Ah, who really cares but perhaps one should be careful of those who claim "that's just my baby daddy/momma".
I would find it interesting to know this coming from a man. I would assume that if you split up with someone and both parties are still willing be intimate, having a child together wouldn't make the slightest difference. These are two consenting adults who obviously still have feelings for one another.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of my favorite John Legend song, ANOTHER AGAIN. IT'S just bad news to keep up that type of connection. If a man can take a women out during the day and sleep with her at night. It should not. Take long for the kids to meet his new mate. I don't have kids and never had to deal with a women's baby daddy.
ReplyDelete@ Lachena, I feel you. But just the fact that you're forever tied to someone, no matter what. Even if you wanted to never talk to them again, you really don't have that option...so imagine that bond when there's no ill feelings. It's always someone you can go back to. You've already experienced the ultimate.
ReplyDelete@ Maicah I agree and I did meet the kids pretty early on and the rest of his fam. Just not the baby moms, so as much time as I spent with them, doing all kinds of activities, etc I just wondered why I wasn't meeting the parents merely out of respect if nothing else. So I began to figure he either wanted to hide me or hide his relationship with her...