For so long, black women have been stereotyped with having attitudes making us known for being difficult to deal with and the "cause" of why some black men choose to date outside of their race. Does anyone ever explore why we might have an attitude or does it not even matter? Are attitudes justifiable in the following situations?
SCENARIO #1: Girlfriend is traveling to meet boyfriend at his job (to which she's never been before). She calls him and says she's lost. Agitated, the first thing he says is "How did you get lost it's only two turns?" She immediately cops an attitude. Is she wrong? Or is he for coming at her like that?
SCENARIO #2: Husband/boyfriend has a sketchy past as far as it relates to being trustworthy. Wife/girlfriend has worked through and stuck it out. She is expecting him home at a certain time but he strolls in hours later. She has an attitude by then. He doesn't understand why. Is she wrong?
Scenario #1: She is justified to have an attitude but proper and effective communication is needed to figure out the reason the boyfriend has an attitude and came at her like that in the first place.
ReplyDeleteScenario #2: Once again, she is justified 100%. However, if she chose to forgive him and work it out, she needs to trust him again or it will not work and there is no point in staying with him.
What we show people and give people dictates how the view us, respond to us, and treat us. Who you are in a relationship with says just as much about you as it does them.
Keeping in mind that old baggage and worn luggage burdens new relationships, so even if you are a good person, humble and trustworthy, certain experiences and memories from the past may overcast the current relationship. Mental and emotional damages may surface and resurface from time to time like flash backs or flare ups.
I do find Black women to be more feisty and less tolerant, with attitudes and chips on their shoulder. Moody and emotional often. It is not a given or rule, but it is a stereotype that rings true and evident in many cases. Yet, I know some soft, humble, meek, respectful, and respectable Black women as well.
I think it is based on individual upbringing and character, environment, and social demographics. Some may be due to culture and even genetics (genealogy and lineage, bloodline and birthright)! The same way Russians or Germans seem hard and cold and tough. Or Latin people are synonymous with being hot-headed or passionate lovers. Some monikers and stereotypes are true and dominant within each race and culture for sure.
Sometimes there is no better way to describe and address an overly aggressive, moody, and mouthy Black woman than, "Black Bitch! Shut the hell up and sit down! I'm Tired of hearing your damn mouth! Something is always wrong with you! You ain't never satisfied! I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't!"........"You know I love you, Baby!"..."Come here...come back....WAIT....Don't leave....Let's talk about this!"...."You ain't no Bitch; I was just mad! You pissed me off!"......
I love my Black women and hate Negro women. But I think that you should Build and Elevate with your own for reproduction in order to keep each diverse race, culture, heritage, bloodline, birthright, and future generation STRONG! That's just self preservation.
ReplyDeleteScenario #1: She is justified to have an attitude but proper and effective communication is needed to figure out the reason the boyfriend has an attitude and came at her like that in the first place.
ReplyDeleteScenario #2: Once again, she is justified 100%. However, if she chose to forgive him and work it out, she needs to trust him again or it will not work and there is no point in staying with him.
What we show people and give people dictates how the view us, respond to us, and treat us. Who you are in a relationship with says just as much about you as it does them.
Keeping in mind that old baggage and worn luggage burdens new relationships, so even if you are a good person, humble and trustworthy, certain experiences and memories from the past may overcast the current relationship. Mental and emotional damages may surface and resurface from time to time like flash backs or flare ups.
I do find Black women to be more feisty and less tolerant, with attitudes and chips on their shoulder. Moody and emotional often. It is not a given or rule, but it is a stereotype that rings true and evident in many cases. Yet, I know some soft, humble, meek, respectful, and respectable Black women as well.
I think it is based on individual upbringing and character, environment, and social demographics. Some may be due to culture and even genetics (genealogy and lineage, bloodline and birthright)! The same way Russians or Germans seem hard and cold and tough. Or Latin people are synonymous with being hot-headed or passionate lovers. Some monikers and stereotypes are true and dominant within each race and culture for sure.
Sometimes there is no better way to describe and address an overly aggressive, moody, and mouthy Black woman than, "Black Bitch! Shut the hell up and sit down! I'm Tired of hearing your damn mouth! Something is always wrong with you! You ain't never satisfied! I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't!"........"You know I love you, Baby!"..."Come here...come back....WAIT....Don't leave....Let's talk about this!"...."You ain't no Bitch; I was just mad! You pissed me off!"......