Why do Men settle down?
Based on my observations and from things I've heard, it seems like men start to settle down when A) their homeboys do, so they might as well or B) They have their financial life in order so again, they might as well. C) The chick he's dating might not be the finest or the one he thought he'd see himself with but she's a good enough girl and they've been kicking it for so long and she may even have one or two of his kids so ...he might as well.
Very rarely do I get the feeling that men decide to settle because they've ultimately found "the one". The female may be someone who has proven herself worth it to some degree, but not because he's fallen head over heels...but because he might as well!
I would like to know the top 3 reasons a man decides to settle, from real men, not a book by a comedian turned relationship expert. How does the way a man decides differ from how women decide?
I think timing plays a big role. Once a man feels secure and stable, and ready for the responsibility then he's more open to the possibility . And what's worng with that? If you don't know yourself and/or you aren't honest with yourself then you really dont have anything to offer in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteAs for finding "the one." Is she the one if the timing is wrong? My answer-No. Why? Cause "the one" is the who you are meant to be with/ is just right for you. How can she be "right" for you if you're not ready or she's not ready.
And as for "being with a woman he's not head over heels for." Being with someone long term is a decision that should be made with the head. Being "head over heels in love" can definatly bring you together, but, it won't keep you together (love vs being in love).
Anyway, here's one vote for timing.
Great point!
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