Christina Aguilera blames her husband for holding her back thus indirectly causing the lack of response to her album "Bionic" and/or making her irrelevant.
Agree or disagree: No one can stop you from getting what you want but in relationships you compromise. Does that mean someone has to lose?? Again, what is the difference between compromising and settling?
I don't think this is a case of settling but a case of compromising. I do believe her husband has held her back but it she must've agreed to it as well. Obviously she is the bread winner in that family, so to me she should've continued working once the baby was settled in and they had established some sort of routine. I can't solely blame the husband, but I do believe he held her back some.
ReplyDeleteI really don't feel like answering this question because it will open certain wounds in my relationship that are being healed....However, out of support for your QOTD Blog Site, I will say that I feel as if I have dumbed down significantly and I drag my feet as far as being a Father and Leader in my household. I feel like I sacrifice who and what I am for the sake of keeping the peace with my wifey, just so I can remain in the household as a present and active Father to our 5 children and soon to be 6th child.
ReplyDeleteI have feasible and tangible plans and goals that seem to be whimsical or a joke or not as important to her, and I have to work around her schedule and be on her time in order to make certain moves necessary for my advancement. I have began to push forward at any cost like she ALWAYS has done and it is causing some tension and friction already. I always support her moves whether I really agree with them or not. Yet, my moves are met with heavy criticisms and harsh judgments and discouragement.
I think in my personal situation and circumstance, she likes to be in control and likes to feel like the champ, breadwinner,and the stable one. I already know she is intimidated by my intellect, wisdom, power, and influence. She is afraid she will not be able to keep up, hold on, or regulate/delegate once my potential is fully kinetic...I almost feel sorry for her as much as I often "fear" success for myself; so I often willingly dumb down and move at a slower pace just to compromise.
In all fairness to the topic and to her, I know my years of BS have held her back but never for long. If anything, I have only presented hurdles and obstacles that frustrate her, but never stop her from doing what she needs and wants. Even putting 6 children on her, she keeps it moving effectively and beautifully.
Honestly, I doubt if she and I would be together if no children were involved but truthfully, I am not sure I would be alive if I did not become a father and with this particular woman. I needed to settle and compromise is always wise; charitable!
Sometimes we hate what is good for us and love what is not good for us. Balance is the key, based on understanding...
ENOUGH....
Part 1:
ReplyDeleteI really don't feel like answering this question because it will open certain wounds in my relationship that are being healed....However, out of support for your QOTD Blog Site, I will say that I feel as if I have dumbed down significantly and I drag my feet as far as being a Father and Leader in my household. I feel like I sacrifice who and what I am for the sake of keeping the peace with my wifey, just so I can remain in the household as a present and active Father to our 5 children and soon to be 6th child.
I have feasible and tangible plans and goals that seem to be whimsical or a joke or not as important to her, and I have to work around her schedule and be on her time in order to make certain moves necessary for my advancement. I have began to push forward at any cost like she ALWAYS has done and it is causing some tension and friction already. I always support her moves whether I really agree with them or not. Yet, my moves are met with heavy criticisms and harsh judgments and discouragement.
Part 2:
ReplyDeleteI think in my personal situation and circumstance, she likes to be in control and likes to feel like the champ, breadwinner,and the stable one. I already know she is intimidated by my intellect, wisdom, power, and influence. She is afraid she will not be able to keep up, hold on, or regulate/delegate once my potential is fully kinetic...I almost feel sorry for her as much as I often "fear" success for myself; so I often willingly dumb down and move at a slower pace just to compromise.
In all fairness to the topic and to her, I know my years of BS have held her back but never for long. If anything, I have only presented hurdles and obstacles that frustrate her, but never stop her from doing what she needs and wants. Even putting 6 children on her, she keeps it moving effectively and beautifully.
Honestly, I doubt if she and I would be together if no children were involved but truthfully, I am not sure I would be alive if I did not become a father and with this particular woman. I needed to settle and compromise is always wise; charitable!
Sometimes we hate what is good for us and love what is not good for us. Balance is the key, based on understanding...
ENOUGH....
Damn! My bad for the double posting! They told me it was too large at first so I broke it down to two(2) parts...yet this original posted anyway!
ReplyDeleteOh well..