Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Squibble Squabble

 Relationships take work.  With any type of relationship, there will be disagreements and conflict; such is life.  People are different and even those with commonalities may bump heads simply because they're too much alike.  We can learn a lot about ourselves and others from conflicts and disagreements; how to appreciate, how to love, how we handle certain situations and how to avoid future discord. Afterall, what would the ups be without the downs? Everyone's got 'em both but when does it surpass normalcy? 

How do you determine the difference between having healthy disagreements, superficial conflicts and all out arguments?  Where do you draw the line between what's typical of two different people trying to mesh and two people who may be trying to force something that just isn't there? Is it the consistency of the disagreements or the content that matters more,or both?
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  1. AnonymousNovember 17, 2010 at 7:26 AM

    I feel I'm "over qualified" for this topic and subject...past this plane of intimacy, affection, passion, and hope. I'm a parent and it's a partnership now, not a relationship in the sense of boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. It's obligation more than desire. It's a business deal and arrangement. It's just a true understanding and realization of what is and what isn't...

    The arguments are a given and seem the norm. There are no winners when we go at it; just a constant tug-of-war and back and forth with moments of peace and "cease fire". She is my best friend and my worst enemy, my lover and hater, MY SPARRING PARTNER...After 14 years and 6 children together, neither one of us will ever fall for the "Okey-Doke" or the "game" coming from any other person. We have trained and conditioned each other well.

    Unalike attracts and like repels. Sometimes we are total opposites and so we attract each other. Then we are so much alike that we clash and repel. For us this is normal...to take the good, bad, and ugly to make a beautifully realistic family.

    This is my personal take of course, without giving up our personal details; and I am not so sure that it even makes sense to me! Like that couple on In Living Color: :
    "We Still Together!"

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